Be busy with your life. Everyone is busy with theirs. Discipline is a virtue!

It is almost a tradition that when singles meet for the first time they share their past experiences with each other. To every lady that would read through this post today "that it is a bad idea".

Woooooow, you say what??? I don't get you. So what do we talk about? James Bond and Selena Gomez? Lolzzz

Guess what?

Men may be called stronger but their hearts and minds is not that strong to handle everything like a woman can, they can be very judgemental. So don't be too quick to spell out yourself to him. A perfect example is a widow who can remain single the rest of her life, singlehandedly taking care of the children. Ordinarily, even the society would advise a widower to remarry after one year.

Most times we push a genuine man away by loading lots of stories in his head, giving him chance to paint a picture of us which never existed.

A man sees you and like you but he knows nothing about you yet, don't be too good,  you don't need to!! 

Let him be free with you if he cares,  let him tell you all he's done in the past and still doing,  that is because he knows you can understand.

Yes, men knows we women can be accommodating and quick to forgive. But that is not enough for you to open yourself.

Try controlling the volume of information you give out from the early stage of your relationship while you still single and expecting God to bless you with the right man. Forget the past and repent of the mistakes, minimise a carefree life and live a life of prayer and focus.

Don't be desperate whenever you meet a man,  be busy with your life, that can draw a man closer to you too.

Men appreciates hard working women . Your facial beauty is not enough to keep a man and certificate is not really what a REAL MAN need.

You must have come across or must have heard about few beautiful and famous women in the society today who are still single,  that will clear you that what a man need is not just your appearance which he saw first,  other things are involved.

A man might be playing around with all sorts of women but when he wants to marry, he doesn't marry the "all sorts". He looks out for the "one".

In this case your certificate or beauty is no longer effective or important.

Sweetheart, don't put up your stories on a white board , especially when you barely know him. The man is still a stranger, you don't know the percentage of his trust on you. Your past is your business don't spill it because he spilled his beans, rather try to learn and understand him as much as you can.

There's time for everything! Most of us once he says hello, we start casting our burden upon him.  

No! This is wrong!! You must know when to share your problems, depths and needs with him.

It is absolutely wrong to share your problems with a man at the early stage of your relationship. If a man has not developed a strong bond with you, don't try to expect things or lay your needs on his mat. You may be giving him the impression of a gold digger  like a said.

It is very bad to give a man a preview of life with him. It could be tempting most times but don't make yourself a girlfriend when you're just  a friend. Don't make yourself a wife when you're just a girlfriend.... Don't try to be ahead of his plans,  it might make you look strange and he will not feel comfortable with you.

Note:You must not go ahead of God's agenda.. It might sooner land you on the pains of feeling rejected .

Bring him more closer. But be principled,  nice, kind and humble.