How do you relate issues to your man and how do you react to issues with your man?

Often, we women look for how to make peace or to avoid issues. While the solution is with us, we cannot see it, so we cry and cry, trying to justify ourselves because we don't think things have gone bad and telling ourselves, he just likes being angry. That's not it. If you understand your position in your relationship with your man, you should also understand the keys to take charge; to make it work and to retain peace.



I want to talk about a very important key to having a peaceful relationship from the angle of the lady. This key is "self-discipline". Self-discipline reflects after your appearance, your beauty and your status. Self-discipline here comes in two ways which you must apply.

Be a good listener: There is no way you can understand someone if you don’t listen to that person. You'll always disagree with each other if you cannot pay attention. You may ask, “Does he listen to me too?" You have to take it upon yourself so that you can handle the outcome and know where to start. If you can start listening very calmly, both of you will get used to each other in a more friendly way without much argument and anger. That makes you more of a woman; it tells a lot about the strength of a woman.

Bridle your tongue: Oh yes! I like this a lot because even the Bible talks about it. The book of James 1:26 says, “If any man (human) among you seem to be religious, and briddleth not his tongue, but deceiveth his own heart, this man's religion is in vain.” Now, see this religion as your marriage or any form of relationship and tell me what the Bible is saying about us, our tongue and the relationship. Swallow those words that are popping up in your head and therefore forcing your mind to voice it. Learn to hold on a little longer, maybe you'll not have to say it at all anyway. See what psalm 39:1&2 has to say, “I said, I will take heed to my ways that I sin not with my tongue: I will keep my mouth with a bridle, while the wicked is before me. I was dumb with silence, I held my peace, even from good; and my sorrow was stirred.” The Bible said “while the wicked is before you”. Yes, the devil is wicked trying to make you challenge your man; after all you're not his slave, right?  But that is wrong. You have to take heed to your ways as the Bible said, know your role is to bring peace and it can only come when you watch your ways and your attitude. Be dumb with silence! And when sorrow tries to cover your heart, learn to pray to God. Ask him for more wisdom. Sing praises in your heart or in a very low tone.

My uncle abandoned his wife and children for about 15years or more just because of one word she said to him. She suffered for those years, crying, praying and seeking for help but thank God they came back.

When your man starts saying those things you don't like hearing, why not sit at a place and start telling yourself, “Hey keep calm, don't talk, don't say it. Yes, I won’t talk.” Say it at least 100x100 times and see before you finish if you'll still hear anyone talking or if you'll still see him at home. Most men out there are afraid of commitment because they believe women are the problem. The book of James says, “Words are fragile; therefore guard your tongue, lest it destroy them.”
Another version of Bible says, “I'll guard my mouth with a muzzle.”

Why don't we change this notion by applying some discipline? I know it'll solve a lot of issues and restore peace into our homes and relationships. Let the wisdom of God continue to build us In Jesus Christ name... Amen.

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