Today on Family issues - Praise

It’s surprising how easy it is for parents to remember how to quote, "Honour your father and mother that your days may be long in the earth," and forget that the same bible also says, "Do not provoke your children to anger."

Many parents are experts at using emotional blackmail. This should not be so. They fail to realise that at some point, they have to let their children fly out of their nest.

Yes, I know they do some of what they do out of good intentions but many also take decisions based on selfish reasons without putting into consideration the opinions of their children, even the adults.

As a young person trying to surmount present day challenges and make the best out of life, should I also be battling with unnecessary parental pressure on trivial matters?

Parents and would-be parents, the realisation that a child has grown and has started making some important decisions by themselves can be hard to accept but don't frustrate your children. Even Jesus says that his yoke is easy and his burden is light. He says he will not make us pass through experiences we will not survive.

Don't leave your kids with the option of disobeying you.

As hard as it is to accept, it’s their life. Play your role, guide them but don't try to control everything because you'll get heartbroken.

Your respect is not gotten from shouting and expressing autocracy.

Teach them the way of the lord. Commit them into his hands and let the Holy Spirit do his job.

Don't force your convictions on them; don't make them ask God why they came through you.

As for you children, when you're convinced beyond doubt, the direction in which your life is headed, it’s your duty to sit them down and 'try' to explain. Don't be blackmailed. Disobedience is a point of view. Choose either to live your life for your parents that are almost through living theirs or for yourself and the people that God has commissioned you to impact.

I don't think God is happy with a parent that frustrates his/her children.

Praise Agbonighale 


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